any discipline they do understand is going to be borderline abuse.

Considering the definition of discipline is to correct behavior, I seriously doubt that. If you don't tell a kid to stop doing hurtful things, they're going to learn it's okay, and they're going to hurt themselves.

Speaking of which, did the parents ok you spanking their children because any nanny who laid a finger on my child would be out on her ass immediately.

Good thing I'm not your nanny then, huh? What part of "they say good job when I tell them what I'm doing" makes you think that they have no idea what I'm doing? They told me to spank when necessary, that's what I do.

Studies have proven that spanking does not benefit the child and can lead to major issues down the line, especially if done in anger.

I wasn't looking to be reprimanded, but to figure out a way to tell these parents that allowing their kids to scream endlessly to get what they want is not a good idea without being unprofessional and that expexting me to be the only one to teach them basic two year old stuff is not okay because I am the nanny, and not the parents.

You can absolutely reinforce the rules without getting upset or hitting.

Not getting upset at the kids. I'm getting upset at the parents for not being parents and throwing the entire role of parenting on me, which is not my job, nor should it be. I'm also not hitting them. Whatever you think I do, you clearly have not seen it, so do not throw accusations around as if you fully know everything.

Your comment? Go fuck yourself. I'm not abusing or mistreating these children in any way. Learn some basic human decency and instead of criticising me doing the job the way my boss wants me to do my job, either offer up useful tips to help me talk to my bosses, or shut your mouth.