As an autistic male diagnosed ADD when I was a kid, given a proper diagnosis of ADHD, primarily inattentive comorbid with ASD in my late '20s. I always knew about the trust thing because it was one of my expectations. Partners are also supposed to adapt to their partners. I remember being a child and wondering what new things I was going to have to learn to support the people I cared about. I've always wanted children and It's impossible to raise them well without a system of trust. Trust is foundational. You are very baseline human. Try meditation when you are breathing. Only takes 15 seconds. It's good for controlling our monkey brains. I also have ADHD primarily inattentive so Vyvanse helps. It's all about controlling your higher brain functions.

I'm wondering if the trust thing is a man thing. Because women usually can't trust. It pays for them, evolutionarily, to be on edge, a bit. There's a certain amount of trust that's required, but that's a trust that's earned, only because of its evidenced based nature. You need to trust that they are a provider. Whereas men need to never have their trust broken. There was some okay Cupid data showing how man and women rate people. One of the comments summed it up best as saying "With men, you're an option until you're not and with women, you're not an option until you are."

I can't find the comment but I can find the study https://imgur.com/5OoSjRY.jpg