Lost my dad 3 months after I had turned 19. Began binge-drinking and sleeping around. I was so lost in my own world that I didn't realise how much my mum was struggling with the loss of her life partner. Once I noticed that my mum was having a tough go of things, I made more of an effort to be home and keep her company.

My dad was the glue in the family. My mum and I bickered all the time. My dad was my best friend in the world and I wanted to die when he did. Now my mum is my best friend and I can't imagine life without her. My dad passed away almost 8 years ago. Just found out last week that my mum has breast cancer. I'm terrified to lose her, but also thankful my relationship with her now.

How did my life change? I learned that nothing is permanent. Enjoy every moment with someone or something that makes you happy. Once that person or thing is gone, understand that the feelings of helplessness/loneliness/anger/despair will eventually fade away too. Don't focus so much on the bad that you leave no room for the good.