the sad part is that most parents arent from cults and sabotage your social life early on. Then no one comes to save you and you only get lip service.
I almost escaped with my first GF I met out of town while away at college until my unt Nsister encouraged her to leave me and said my realtionship was "toxic" because I just didnt want her to see her guy friends without me. basic boundary stuff like that. Not too unreasonable.
She also proceeded to scream "shut up" and try to silence me ANY time i spoke and accused me of all kinds of heinous shit.
as well as try to rub her BF in my face over the last several YEARS. 'HEY WHAT THE FUCK!?" every time she was in the bathroom near my bedroom and "shut up" when i was laughing over funny youtube videos any time during the day but she would be up all night cooing at someone over the phone until I finally had the balls to yell "shut the fuck up" at her every time she did it and then the nparents came in and threatened me when she started yelling for them when all i did was yell "shut the fuck up" from my bed across the hallway.
Id have left long ago if it was easy to get and keep a job here with people who wont try to destroy you psychologically when you're just there to get a paycheck for your trouble.
They wonder why i snapped one day as she kept taunting me "pick on someone your own size little boy" and felt like a psychological death blow I narrowly avoided and blacked out and found out I had kicked her ass. Then the crocodile tears started rolling as if she didnt do anything to incur my wrath over her agenda to try to make me homeless and starve to death on the street.
I was let off with a warning and some therapy thanks to humanity. I now tell people I never had a sister.
Then it went from "lol were gonna get another guy to kick your ass" from Nmom and Nsister to "OMG I DIDNT THINK YOU HAD IT IN YOU. YOU COULDVE KILLED HER, IS THAT WHAT YOURE GONNA DO TO YOUR WIFE?"
as if you need to be a 6 foot 240 pound meat head in order to get automatic basic respect from people and I sure as hell am not going to be able to keep anyone close to me while they are in my life.
Dont think you will get lucky like I did. She also lied to the police about things that I had did when I blacked out and fortunately things cooled over and She no longer lives here. I make no effort to find or contact her as she is "dead" to me and has been for a very long time with her attitude and behavior towards me.
The therapist even agrees with me that he shouldnt be the one to teach me things about basic shit like cover letters and learned that I had actually figured out things all on my own with no one there to mentor me and my parents either driving away people that would accept me. Therapy doesnt do much in of itself and isnt as good as a close friend or S.O. like broads will tell you, but its better than No guidance if you were isolated like I was by the N family.
It got Nsister to fuck off and stop actively attacking me but didnt stop her from working through the Nparents and sure didnt stop her from regaining her courage to "ew get the fuck away from me" and pretend I dont exist when she comes to visit the Nparents.
It hurts to see my Nparents tell me that "we cant text you all day" and then see a wall of fucking text consistently every day between Nsister and Nmom glancing over her shoulder whole shes on facebook.
cant help it but emotional thorn bushes hurt to brush up against as its like a river eroding a stone.
Go no contact if you can or else you might wind up like I did as a best case scenario.