I do not generally force use of pronouns, and though I can understand the wish to use other pronouns in a variety of situations, It does really help the persons other then the owner to understand the reason why someone uses a certain pronoun.

First: I just can try to be respectful and use people's name first.

If one wants to represent masculine: he him his If one wants to represent feminine: she her hers If one wants to represent nonbinairy: they them theirs If one wants to represent agender: they them theirs

I do not understand many new pronouns and honestly these do not help in general life or understanding of gender. A pronoun is not a fashion statement, as we are trying to make others understand we are outside the binairy, a step which should come logically, FIRST.

I myself am genderfluid and though I do ask not to be gender labelled in correspondence, I tend to accept to be gendered male, as I was AMAB. I 'fathered' my children, so I'm daddy to my children, though I see myself as parent. So Im in effect he/they. This is clear to most people I came out to. Trying to have a community swirve with me being male, demimale, enby, agender or demifemale seems overly complex, to a point of ridicule to be honest... So I try to avoid this...

I have less problems with 'one/one's', or 'it, its' or just being pronounless (no pronouns used at all).... One's name stays perfect throughout all choices as well.

I have many problems with the E, Fae, U, Ze, Ae, Co and other neopronouns simply because these pronouns do nothing more then stating a non binairy gender..., much the same as they/them/theirs in my opinion.

I do confess I do not really understand microlabels either, simply because I have not done much with the community since 2007... and most things labels didn't exist in name, and often not even in concept... If these names are derived off microlabels I do not recognize the concept as consequence.

I know this opinion sounds harsh... but I would rather hear hetero/cis people try using they/them/theirs, then just give up because there are dozens of options, and feeling insecure and uncomfortable, and thus dismissing to use third gender pronouns altogether, which would be counterproductive... I occasionally butcher gendering as well, and I generally understand the concept and asked to use it by other people...

People using vamp, cat or other noun based pronouns make stuff even more complex... and it tends to feel for me like they want to force themself outside social comfort and acceptance. Their efforts to stand out leads to redicule and trivialisation of steps made by communities...

To have LGBTQIA+ members targeted by ridicule, and making the community an unnecessary easy target seems ill though out. I know who is making the statements and I do not condone any attempts, but it makes it so easy to target the community as a whole, with the most fragile groups taking the most hate, even though they often do not use 3rd gender pronouns...

TL;DR: People using vamp, cat or other noun based pronouns make gendering overly complex, I am glad if non LGBTQIA people take the effort to gender appropriately, and this gets hampered by most neo and noun based pronouns, which are so far beside normal, to a point where it gets ridiculed and made fun off... which defeats the initial purpose.

So I prefer to use: - Name... seems logical - he / she / they / one - Its - for the rest I'll likely default to use they/them/theirs.

An old(er) queer person.