I'm sorry you work at such a shitty job. However, nothing you said goes against my point. I never, repeat never, said that there was no such thing as rewarding male sexuality. You in fact mentioned that men who don't participate are punished.

However, society is starting to react negatively to male-type traits. The previously masculine virtues are starting to be actively suberted. This would be great if society didn't also expect those same virtues from men.

Since the sexuality discusiion is going nowhere, how about emotion. Men are ridiculed for expressing emotion and told they are upholding negative gender roles if they don't express emotion. Often the same people will spout "cry moar male tears" and "it's toxic for men to hold their feelings inside". You see how that might confuse a young boy growing up in today's world? Does this mean that women don't deal with anything? No.

I'm sorry you've had bad experiences. So have I, and they inform a lot of what I say. I've had a lot of trouble getting mental health assistance almost entirely due to my gender. I've been told I needed to "let go of my stupid male ego and get help" and then I get told I need to "man up" when I get the help. Now I know that doesn't sound like a big deal to most people, but I have had a gun in my mouth several times in my life, so there's that.

I'm not oppressing women or denying anybody's lived experience with my statements. I'm just saying that there are also other bad things that happen, and maybe we can occasionally make time for the little boy growing up ashamed of his sexuality and the guy who keeps getting put on suicide watch while working on all the "big", "real" progressive causes.