She was his history. That explains a lot of choices. Eventually you will be his wife and she will be first wife. His children and his wife are reasons why he is who he is now. Eventually you’ll have an effect on him and be part of who he will be in the future.

I had to think about a lot about this when I married my late husband. He had not been married before but he told his story by telling me about his previous girlfriends. This girlfriend got him to go back to school and then he had this epiphany. That girlfriend he learned how wrong it was to be jealous. At first I was very confused why did he need to tell me about his girlfriends and then I realized he was telling me about himself. The way he saw himself.

The things in the room there’s nothing wrong with them, they meant something to him and they still mean something to him and probably will until other things mean more to him.

Taking something that was important and putting it in the trash is hard.