I think this implies no one on here has ever asked anyone out. Many people on this sub reddit have asked out or put their feelings out there to many people. I've asked out a few people irl (they all said no), along with telling a good friend who led me on for years I was in love with her. i've asked out many, many people on line. ibe probably sent out messages to 1/4 of the non straight women in a major city. I've gone out on a fair amount 25? maybe first dates from this. very, very few of these for beyond that. at most someone will date me for a month or two and decided they dont feel "sparks", want to date someoem they're more into, "you're a sweet girl, but..." (for the record, I am gay) I don't think I shoot out of my league the last women I tried to date was morbidly obese and a single mom. I have no children and am fit. I'm not ugly I'm average looking but I stay in shape but I'm "not confident" (I am confident in things im good at, but not in things im not - like dating), a bit shy and very self-conscious. I've thought of maybe therapy but right now I have an Obama care plan which is shit.really the only area of my life that this affects though is dating. Im fine at work and make friends fairly easily (though in my childhood, teen years I really didn't have any close friends because I was painfully shy - I've grown out of that quite a bit. I do get tired of trying to hard at this - it's like job hunting - so I'll take a break for months and sometimes years at a time and then get back to it again.