I don’t know if this counts, I think it’s coercion, not rape, but I had started seeing this girl I was friends with for a while.

We were hanging out at a mutual friend’s house, where she proceeded to get very drunk (a usual occurrence). And kept licking me and being weird when people weren’t around. I just chocked this up to her being really drunk, and light heartedly told her to stop being a weirdo, but she kept doing it throughout the night.

I felt kind of uncomfortable since she was super drunk, and I don’t like her at all when she’s drunk.

Anyway, by the end of the night I had had a few as well, and didn’t feel comfortable driving home so our mutual friend let us crash on her couch. Our mutual friend also didn’t know we were dating.

Mutual friend goes to bed (room right next door), and immediately my girlfriend gets on top of me and starts biting me. I’m very confused, she’s telling me she wants it. I tell her I don’t feel comfortable with our friend just in the next room. I also felt it was kind of disrespectful to hook up on her couch like that.

She keeps telling me to come on, but I say no. She doesn’t get off me, and starts talking about how she wants it so much. I tell her again, I just don’t feel comfortable. Then she starts biting me again, but this time not really playfully, it’s starting to actually hurt. She’s grinding on me, and her tone is starting to change and be more forceful. She keeps sticking her tongue in my mouth, and all I can taste is the wine. Finally I just give in. I don’t even know why. She’s the type of person who when she gets drunk and wants something, she doesn’t stop until she gets it. Anyway, I reluctantly get on top of her, the whole time worried our friend in the next room can hear us, and trying not to let her kiss me because the alcohol coming off her breathe is disgusting.

I don’t know. I’ve been confused and upset about this for a while, but I never brought it up because I figured people would tell me it’s not a big deal. I just felt like I couldn’t say no, or no wasn’t going to be accepted. She doesn’t like being told no when she’s drunk. Whether that’s with sex, or telling her not to drive. I eventually broke it off with her. But she was my first since I wanted to wait for the right person. Feel kind of upset since I’ve since realized she wasn’t it and I waited for nothing.