[SERIOUS] Men of Reddit who are victims of sexual/physical abuse from their wives/girlfriends, what has your experience finding help been like?

I was arrested and in jail over the weekend because my ex decided to go crazy and called the police.

It was our anniversary and she was very upset the evening didn't go the way she had hoped. Which was her fault for dragging her feet all night.

After I picked up the kids and went back home after dropping her off there. She had barricaded the door. I had to slam into it until until the chair blocking it broke. I climbed over it and moved it out of the way so the kids could get in. The house was destroyed so after getting the kids settled in I started to clean up. She came out screaming and making more of a mess. She told me to leave so I packed up quickly and started to walk out the door when she said if I leave I have to take my. Kid. I start to pack her up when she says if intake her she will say I kidnapped her.

I didn't know what to do so I just walked out the door. She ran past me and jumped in the backseat of my car and took my license plate and said if I left she would call the police. The car was uninsured so I wrestled the place back from her. She ran across the hall to call the neighbors because I had taken her phone. She called her parents and told them I was hitting her and to call the police. By the time the cops got there she had calmed down. They immediately took her outside and asked what happened. I still don't know what she told them and this was over a year ago. Her and the cop came back in and I was arrested. No miranda rights no asking my side. Straight to jail. The cop who drove me to jail asked me why I did it. I told him my side and he said I should have left. But since he took her statement I was going to jail.

After I got out I wanted nothing to do with her. Until I saw my. Daughter who had been living in a filthy house with no power or water. I couldn't fight for custody because everything I had was gone. My daughter was filthy to the point I barely recognized her. A thick layer of grime covered her.

I decided for my daughters sake I would stay with my girlfriend who put me in jail. I regret that decision everyday. There's no way out and I've been contemplating suicide every day since then. The only thing that keeps me here is my daughter.

Sorry for formating I'm on mobile at work.

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