I understand how you feel. It can be frustrating and even offensive when someone immediately asks about your occupation as a way to size you up or determine your worth.

It's possible that some men ask about your job as a way to start a conversation or find common ground, but it's important to remember that your worth as a person is not defined by your occupation or income.

If you find that this is a recurring issue in your interactions with men, you can try redirecting the conversation to other topics that you're interested in, such as hobbies or travel experiences.

If someone continues to focus on your job or income despite your attempts to steer the conversation in a different direction, it may be a sign that they're not interested in getting to know you as a person and you may want to consider moving on from that interaction.