my brother is 24 and has absolutely no intention of moving out ever. my mother is his biggest fan and for some time i've privately thought that she probably has some inappropriate feelings towards him. he failed at school, he has messed around with drugs/alcohol and he is unemployed with no intention of finding work because my deluded mother pays for his way of life.

she doesn't want him to ever leave.

my father on the other hand is another story. he loves my mother more than life itself, but he knows that she has made my brother the man of the house and the most important man in her life. i think my father just wishes my brother would kill himself, as he threatens to do when my mother doesn't do as he says (e.g. put money into his account). my brother is very, very abusive, exceedingly self entitled and thinks he's so hard done by when really he's got the whole world laid at his feet by his sick mother that he consciously manipulates and takes advantage of for his own needs.

i no longer love my mother as she has enabled my brother to become the way he is and encourages him to stay the same. my father works all the hours god sends to avoid being in the house, and i'm saving up to move out (i work full time).

my mother loves my brother and would die for him but my father regrets him ever being born and i just want to escape because i'm living in a really toxic and unhealthy environment. it has taken its toll over the years on both my father and i.