So far I have a 100% success rate with my marriages. I have only been married once. I try to keep things interesting, I also try to maintain some humor and occasionally I am actually funny. For me, I needed to find what I was looking for in terms of a relationship. I learned that the hard way by finding out what I don't want in a relationship. A lot of people would say that a relationship just needs love, and I find that is only partially the truth. A relationship also needs respect and understanding. The whole Jenny mess can be summed up as she did not have respect for their relationship. I would say that love is a general term for an overall felling that has many attributes that is indescribable. I can love something fully and nobody can have the same feeling as I do. They can only relate in terms of their own personal feelings.

I had respect for my wife even before we had a personal relationship. We worked at the same place together and she had a pretty strong work ethic. Before I worked there I worked at a place that made railcars and I absolutely loved working there. I got laid off around the same time as everyone else did in 2002. I took my work ethic to that place and they appreciated what I did. People asked about where I worked before and when I told them they understood. My coworkers may have not liked me at first but they respected that I would work a little harder so they didn't have to. I am very much a person that you may not like me at first but you will eventually come around. Anyway back to the relationship. This girl and I started talking to each other and I thought that she was dating a coworker that was just awesome. Timmy! He was the nicest person that I ever worked with, genuinely a good guy. Since I assumed that they were in a relationship I kept things respectful. After a little while I asked her if she was in a relationship with someone and she told me no. I asked her if she would be interested in dating me and she told me no. She did a thing that I wish others would do and give a reason why. I have noticed that a lot of people believe that they should never have to give a reason. I feel that giving a reason is a benifitial thing for both parties. For the one saying no it outlines what they are looking for and clears out the doubt, for the one being told no, it will help them to improve themselves. The girl to me no because she felt that she didn't know me that well. I feel that it was completely fair because all the communication we had was at work during breaks and the occasional time we both got out of work at the same time. So we started hanging out after work usually going to the Barnes and Noble that was next to our work and having coffee and looking through books. I will cut short this boring story, eventually we started dating and we eventually got married. 2 kids later and we are still going good.

Saying that you need to do this or that is a complete cop-out. There is so many variables that because something worked for me, will not usually apply to anyone else. I think that a relationship should have common goals. Some people are there to just have a good time and others just want something stable. For me, my marriage works by respecting each other and trying to keep things 50/50 and compromising when it's needed. If I feel like cooking something my wife has the option to say that she wants to instead. She lets me cook because I apparently I cook good. I will add that if you have a specialty that always helps in a relationship. I don't know, at this point I'm just pulling hairs. Sometimes a relationship will work and sometimes it just won't. The ones that have respect will tell you when things are not going alright. I have had a mutual ending of a relationship because we both knew it just wasn't going to work.

I have a feeling that this will be buried, and I kind of hope it does. If not, it's just the same. I have the feelings that I do for my wife and it's pretty hard to describe it. We have been together for a decent amount of time and I feel that it will be this way for many years to come. Eventually our relationship will end but I really don't want it to. We after all, are mortal.