Trauma literally rewires the brain. "cut connections" with the shit is not something that is applicable across the board.

"Let go and accept" that they're flawed just like me? Flawed and sick are very different things.

They're beyond flawed. My dad fucking stabbed my mother (spent nearly a decade of my early life in prison), sexually harassed me, my mother blamed me for "inviting" the shit, and physically abused me from a very young age.

You know what's really fucked up? Them having been so successful in their emotional manipulation that I still have a relationship with them, still love them, and still help them however I can.

Parental mistakes, my god.