Dude that's more red flags than a Chinese parade! The reason she's trying to throw you off the scent is because she knows she's done wrong. I'm going to be changing certain words here to avoid ramping down voting but this will give you the gist

Psychos like your wife here are manipulative, evil and will use every tactic they have to extract the resources from you, I would recommend taking your half out of all of the finances and using it to find a lawyer as soon as possible.

The truth is friend, she never loved you she has only been using you as a provider and a place to stay. It's a disgusting and very shitty tactic that people like her will use.

The worst part is they are so good with manipulation that they could possibly even pass a polygraph because it's all done on the subconscious their subconscious forces their conscious mind to believe the lie that they're trying to get you to believe

Do whatever you have to do to get out of that situation, for your own good