Idk that I'd label her any of the above,but she might qualify.

My oldest sister is extremely popular and loved by all for her cheerful and kind personality. How she treats us siblings though is exactly the opposite. She constantly puts us down, grossly exaggerates everything we do and just acts like we make her skin crawl. We have an ongoing joke that if one of us commit suicide it will be after talking to her.

A few things that stand off the top of my head (but are by no means even close to the worst) I remember having to go to her house after school,we had no choice because my dad had left my mom and both of them had lost their minds for a while,so nobody picked us up- after lecturing us on how it wasn't fair her and her husband had to deal with us when they were young and basically we weren't her problem- she'd look at how I did my hair or what I wore and roll her eyes and look repulsed "you look fucking retarted". She sure didn't mind us constantly babysitting for her though.

The days after my mom's death she was worse then usual to me and I won't even get into how awful she was aside to say it made a bad time worse.

The worst to me though is her relentless complaining about us to her husband and children (who we all love and we're close with). They're absolutely convinced we are trash and she is a saint for tolerating us. Worse yet,they did the same to my mom- who truly was a saint.

On the other hand,she is absolutely there for us when it counts and crazy protective and defensive of us...it's complicated. I wish she'd at least acknowledge it and treat us like humans.