I don't know what else to say. Figured I'd come here and post this because maybe someone had a similar experience.

Okay, here is a verbose anecdote (that I will delete shortly enough) about a similar experience: I met up twice with a woman through OKC (spending the night with her both times). She claimed that she was curious about getting together for strictly casual purposes, having never tried it before; in fact, I don't believe she'd ever met anyone online before. In retrospect, I wonder if she was actually experiencing a manic episode; she seemed put together at the time, and super cool: Dentist who had been, in her previous life, a comedian (and knew some of my fave comedians personally!).

We met up, texted a fair bit, met up again, texted a fair bit, and then I didn't hear much from her; about two weeks after our last exchanged messages (which was about one month after the last time I saw her) my roommate mentioned to me that there was a student at our school who had gone missing. The news coverage said she'd had major depressive episodes in the past, and that she had left behind notes for her family; it also said that her phone last pinged near the George Washington Bridge. Indeed, she jumped off the GW Bridge to her death.

The only times I'd seen her involved avoiding her roommates, and the only communication I had with her was somewhat licentious is nature; so I neither knew any of her family/friends nor felt comfortable indicating how I knew her: In particular, I didn't go to the service or funeral. (Hopefully her younger brother didn't go through our texts and find me...)

Anyway, I absolutely understand what you mean by:

I'm a bit disturbed by all this. We were essentially only strangers but it's weird to accept that someone you've spoken to suddenly dies, if that makes sense.

"Spoken to" and "spent two nights with" probably aren't all that different in the final calculus.

A grand shame, all around, in both cases.