Yea. Wouldn’t it just be easier to admit she misses me and say that she’ll try to work on letting me and other people she wants in her life do their own thing? To admit that needing control is unhealthy snd that she’ll never have real relationships, love or be loved until she lesrns to relinquish that control?

I guess that woukd require being able to accept that people could love you. And it doesn’t matter how many times you say “I love you. Youre smart, tough, fascinating and beautiful and I accept your flaws and don’t blame you for them because you can’t control them. And we can work on everything and I won’t abandon you as long as you control your behavior enough that you’re not doing the outrsgeously harmful things anymore” A narcissist will never be able to believe it anyway so it’s a waste if energy