If I could reward what you said, I would. You make a lot of sense.

I feel like I still love my wife. I remember all the things we've seen in our life together and all the things we've went through. I do feel like I take her for granted. Sometimes I don't "see" her, if that makes any logical sense. Even after almost ten years, I still learn new things about her, but what I'm learning are things that I don't particularly like. I feel like all the good things about her that I've learned have already been tapped out and the only things new are bad.

Do you think finding that spark would really work? What if, not saying it's definitely true, but what if what I'm struggling with was always within me? What if it was an issue I developed when I was a teenager or early adult? Do you think it's ingrained?