You just sound like you are thirsty and want to sleep with other women. “Despite my strong desire to want to play that night” that’s how you described that experience with that other women. Then you describe to your wife how you really wanted to make it better with that other women again for a round two? Weird, no wonder she was standoffish. I think your wife was more into it for the variety/fun experience and you are more in it to sleep with other women and that’s why she’s not feeling it anymore, she probably picked up some of those vibes after. She probably wants it still that’s why she fantasizes about it but she doesn’t trust you and I probably wouldn’t either.