Do you guys think that my dad is gay on the DL?. I live with him, and my mom and 3 younger brothers live abroad for financial reasons. I've always suspected something about him, he's effeminate, a big homophobe, constantly lies for no reason and me and my brothers never really got to know him even though we all lived together ( he barely spoke to any of us) until he got fired and moved abroad last year. I recently moved to his house for uni and he changed a lot ( shaves his legs and chest, watches wrestling before going to sleep even though he never like violence, goes to work earlier than usual or comes back later than expected). I also started to realize things that I couldn't see before like for ex him never showing affection or love to my mom, getting constantly angry at her for no reason but back then I just thought that this is what marriages go through so I didn't make much of it. My mom also has trouble sleeping at night and suffered from depression. She sometimes slept in another room but I never knew why and my dad always told me that she is 'naturally depressed' and just laughed it off like it was no big deal, so I believed him. I was to young to make anything out of what was happening. My mom came to visit me and my dad for Christmas and she hadn't seen him in over a year or so because he lived overseas. They fought every single minute of every day for NO REASON at all. He always blames her for everything that is wrong in his life. I couldn't take it anymore. He recently started seeing this old guy 'friend' of his every week since he moved out. We''ll call this guy X. X divorced 20 years deep in his marriage and he has a 17 year old daughter. Whenever he talks about X he's so passionate and his eyes kind of glow like he's in love with him or something. He told me he lived with X for 5 month before meeting my mom where X told him what was going on with in his marriage and the problems him and his wife were having. Now don't get me wrong I have nothing against LGBT people (I'm bi myself) but I can't bare the idea of him cheating on my mom. I never really liked my dad because I though he was different from the other dads. I didn't know what it was but I knew he was just different. I started getting suspicious when this X guy started calling my dad at random hours of the day and my dad always just said : ''I'll call him later''. This blew my suspicion to the roof... He spent more time talking to X than my mom and showed no signs of love or attraction to her. X once came to my house to visit but I didn't feel like seeing strangers that day ( I hate being in the presence of ppl i don't know and having to small talk this and that blablabla.) So when my Dad asked me to go say hi to him I said no. He got pissed for Days I mean REAAAALLY pissed and I was shocked at how pissed he was I mean do you guys think this is normal? Anyways one night I manned up and confronted him about my doubts of him being gay and I told him everything i was thinking about because I couldn't bare this mental pressure anymore ( 'what if he is cheating on my mom ? why is she always sad ?'). He just laughed and called me crazy. I caught him off guard and asked him what were X’s problems with his wife… He struggled to reply and after a few minutes of thinking of a lie to tell me he said that X came too quick in bed and couldn’t satisfy his wife. I mean guys this isn’t something you simply forget he even told me earlier that they talked about those problems for a while so when my dad told me he FORGOT I didn’t believe him. The next morning I apologized and he said it's ok I talked to X but we didn't talk about you. WHY would he call him the next morning we had this talk? This was about a week ago on a Wednesday. I went through his phone last night but there was no sign of calls received or sent to X... the last call was 2 weeks ago and the last text was 4 month ago. So why did he delete his call logs with him or even the text messages? I though he had nothing to hide. Weird thing is X is on his favorites list , yet there seems to be barely any calls or texts from him. I have no hard evidence but this can't all just be a coincidence can it? I decided to track his phone for the next couple of weeks to see if he goes to X's house without telling me and now I'm posting this trying to see what you guys think. Sorry for the long post and my bad English ( it’s my 3rd language). Is my dad gay on the DL in your opinion ? And what should I do plz this is killing me mentally !