Check out: marry him, the case for settling for mr. Good enough. It’s VERY sensationalist and dramatic, but the overall point is - there are a lot of decent people out there that may not be super glam, but are overall good people that you can create a good life and family with. Of course - you must and should be attracted to/respect/appreciate the character and personality of that person; this doesn’t mean marry anyone. It just means let go of some expectations that aren’t related to character or kindness like wanting someone dark and tall, a certain profession, into your hobbies, etc. Only you can know what’s important to you, though. If you’re a snowboarder and you do it every weekend, then, it might make sense to find another snowbird! If you surf a few weekends a year, perhaps it doesn’t matter if your partner comes along, etc.