3. TIL "a low sense of control is highly associated with anxiety, depression, and v...

TIL "a low sense of control is highly associated with anxiety, depression, and virtually all mental health problems. Researchers have found that a low sense of control is one of the most stressful things that people can experience."

You just described my exact situation. Almost done with college, only a few courses left. Parents 50+ escaped before the revolution in late 70s. Feel so stressed/anxious despite knowing that I don’t need to be. I’ve isolated myself for so long trying to fix the source of my problems (which I have yet to identify) and I feel like I’ve driven away my close friends. Used to be really active in my fraternity for 3 years and today I found out two of my brothers who I have a class with had a study session for our midterm tomorrow in the chapter house (where we all live) and didn’t even mention it to me. It hurt me more than I’d like to admit. I wish I could not give a fuck, stop blaming myself for everything, and try to find joy in all the good things about life right now but I feel almost nostalgic of the present, which bothers me cause that’s something I should have control over... It’s a shitty feeling despite having so many good things going for me, like my grades, parents who love me (though they don’t understand me), and many relative luxuries that I imagine 99% of the world might only dream of.

So far my best solution is to be confident that I won’t always feel like this and that maybe I’ll be happier after college when I move to the city and hopefully land a good job. Just wish I didn’t have to feel like this now, especially after my dads advice was to “enjoy college cause it’s the best time of your life”. Not even sure how he’d know that considering he didn’t go to a traditional university. And I despise the idea that this is where I peak. Like the Golden god says, “Let me tell you something, I haven't even begun to peak. And when I do peak, you'll know. Because I'm gonna peak so hard that everybody in Philadelphia's gonna feel it.”

Sorry to rant; just wanted you to know there’s probably at least a bunch of us in this together. Bidding you Godspeed, my friend.

/r/todayilearned Thread Parent Link - scientificamerican.com
Previous
Next

Recently removed from /r/todayilearned

TIL Thomas(ine) Hall was declared both a man and a woman in a Virginia court in 1629 and ordered to wear men's clothing with a woman's apron and bonnet. He/She would present as either gender carnally and when working as soldier, lacemaker, field laborer, or maid. Thomasine was physically intersex. TIL that the low cost wine brand "Two Buck Chuck" was created by Fred Franzia, who bought the Charles Shaw name from a bankrupt winery for $27k. Once when asked why his wine was cheaper than water, he replied "They're overcharging for the water. Don't you get it?" TIL that butterflies have 4 wings not 2 (found out on an episode of Benidorm during a pub quiz) TIL Don Quixote, considered one of the first modern novels, is also one of the first stories that uses meta-fiction, as the author plays pretend that his story comes from historical sources and had to search for lost documents and translations to complete it. TIL "Rudy", of Notre Dame football fame, was involved in a pump-and-dump scheme and had a settlement with the SEC for >$380,000. TIL Brazil found incarcerated populations read 9x as much as the general population. They made a new program for prisoners so each written book review took 4 days off a prison sentence. TIL most English speaking countries around the world pronounce “Z” as “zed” but the United States is the only one that does not. Unlike other English speak countries the US pronounces it “zee.” TIL Snoop Dogg was excommunicated by the Rastafari Council after his attempt to rebrand as Rastafarian "Snoop Lion" TIL Some of the reasons people drive aggressively include a sense of anonymity while driving, feeling more empowered driving than in the rest of their lives, and a feeling that other drivers have previously driven aggressively around them. TIL about Nasubi from Japan's (perhaps the entire world's) most controversial TV show ever recorded. Nasubi lived alone in a tiny room for 15 months completely naked and only able to survive based on items he won from sweepstakes. More info in comments. TIL by passing a law requiring pharmacies to be owned by a licensed pharmacist, North Dakota has essentially done away with corporate chain pharmacies. Corporations that own pharmacies must be majority owned by licensed pharmacists. TIL that the Fahrenheit scale was standardized 18 years before Celsius. The world switch due to the British Empire. The United States is actually using the earlier standard. TIL that the famous James Bond theme (first heard in 1962 in Dr. No) was source of a long running dispute between John Barry and Monty Norman. Norman had originally written a song for a musical adaptation of V. S. Naipaul's novel A House for Mr Biswas which was the inspiration. TIL that the parasite H. zschokkei is the only multicellular organism that does not rely on Oxygen for respiration. It relies on a currently undiscovered energy metabolism to sustain itself. TIL, cold or rainy weather cannot make you sick

More Random Comments

Ll bean manatee 2 ? Lin Wood crashes a Mercer Law admin Zoom meeting that is discussing the removal of his name from a classroom. Wood compares himself to Jesus, defends his tweet calling for Pence’s assassination, and verbally spars with Dean Cathy Cox. sexually frustrated L.A. County’s Public Health Chief Discusses the Mask Mandate Looking for tips for suitable, simple magic items Does anybody have a download of Evanescence? Question about disqualification period 2021 Update from TFS Hair thinning out again after a year on Finasteride 1mg. Losing all my gains. Any insights? I have recently been doubting if god exists A question about real life Rome Is it really that uncommon for men not to know where the clitoris is? CMV: White people with dreadlocks is not cultural appropriation Asian-American "Scholars" Discussing Race. Is there anything more embarrassing? NEW IN KERACK GUARDS COLLECTION! The truth behind Artaud and his past in the Kerack army...