Ah alrighty, just thought I'd see if that was it. I know too many of my friends have gotten suckered in by guys online who mainly just wanted to use them as masturbation material. It's awful, they have no consideration for others feelings.

I'm not someone's second choice and I told him I'm not waiting around for him. He doesn't deserve my loyalty if he's off banging other people deciding.

Good on you for that! We all deserve someone who really wants us, not just settles.

I could understand him needing more time to process at first, but it really doesn't take months to decide if he wants to be with you. I think he's exploring other options while trying to keep you as a backup, honestly.

Or maybe he's going through some super heavy shit right now in life, but it sounds like you're the type of friends where you'd discuss that.

Well if he decided to start ignoring you first, there's your answer. He's not interested in a relationship, unfortunately, sounds like.

It's unfortunate, and harsh and painful I'm sure, but is it possible that you're so into him just because he's been around so long, and paid so much attention to you? Have you had many male suitors? I ask because that's basically how my first relationship came about - close friend, online but local, no other guys really paid me much attention so he became the 'main guy' in my life and I started to like him. Eventually I realized I didn't even really care for him that way, I just kind of clung to him because he paid me attention.

Sounds sad, but low self esteem and insecurities can do that.

I think maybe you should just move on from him, the best you can, and try to find someone else. There are tons of guys out there with similar interests, who you'll get along with great, who will treat you how you want and deserve to be and actually want to be in a relationship with you.

I've dated some shit guys. Sometimes you gotta get through the shit to get to the good. Practice safe sex, condoms/birthcontrol/etc, and babies shouldn't happen (though accidents do happen sometimes). My guy now, is the sweetest and best guy I've dated. He's crazy about me, and I am about him. That's how it should be.

So fuck this guy, you can speculate about whats wrong with him or you and why he doesn't want to be with you endlessly and likely never find the answer. I say go find someone crazy about you that WANTS to be with you and doesn't make you question yourself like this.