[Tri] We don't have children yet, but we can comment on a few things. One, it is possible for Tulip to be a mother regardless of your body's past or present hardware configuration. To take an example. Our grandmother. She was essentially a father to our mother and uncle. They didn't call her that but that was essentially what she was to them. For Tulip, things are a bit different. Tulip is a girl. That is her gender regardless of the sex of your shared body. Then, if you all have kids, she would be a mother if she so chose. Might be a bit complicated to talk to the kids about. They wouldn't have a problem with it all if they were young, but they might tell others, so the difficult part would be telling them about you and Tulip and how you two share a body but that they need to keep that private. They can then get to know you and Tulip. So, you need not worry too much about social roles. People on the outside if they figure out anything at all might think it a bit weird, but that is probably it. They might just think you are a bit feminine is all (well, unless Tulip is a tomboy or butch or otherwise masculine). Social roles stuff is navigable. Even though her situation is a bit different, it might still pay off for you two to read a bit about the parenting experiences of trans gender people.

This subject reminds us of our own situation. We would like to have kids someday, but that will only be if we have a unanimous consensus between us, Hail, anybody else in our system who fronts by that time (would likely include the original, S), and every fronting member of our partner system (our girlfriend's headmate is Hail's girlfriend). Motherhood is something that means a lot to us. Sadly, we can't have kids the old-fashioned way since we are almost surely sterile (our system is a trans woman who has been on estrogen for over 2 years which means almost for sure sterility) and our partner system is also a trans woman on estrogen (even if they weren't sterile, we all have the same hardware so reproduction doesn't work). But really, even if we could have kids the old-fashioned way, we would likely adopt anyways (too many kids need a home and don't have one). So, we might become adoptive parents.