It's your attitude. That's how you're being shitty, in general. I am very much left with the impression that I would not enjoy a conversation with you in real life. You are rude, and overly emotional, and taking it out on people in this thread.

I get what you're saying -- I really do -- but being rude to people is hurting your cause more than helping. I also hurt for OP, I also get where she's coming from, I also get that Grandma was out of line. But just because other people commenting lack the background that we have (which is a good thing, remember!) it doesn't mean you should be a dick to them because they don't want to crucify Grandma.

I'm done with this, though, because talking to you is like talking to a brick wall. (And I don't care that you went through my post history, I just think it's a creepy thing to do. Maybe I'm weird because I don't look at everyone's post history when I'm commenting to them.) But have a nice evening and maybe take a break from the computer. You seem to be getting worked up, and like I said, it doesn't seem to be helping OP.