UPDATE #1 - Me [37/F] with my mother-in-law [70/F], had a tiff, she gave me the silent treatment for two days until I called her out on her abusive behavior. Now things are even worse.

I made my previous response in a way that I felt was thoughtful, considerate, and more inclusive than adversarial. I've assumed you're a descent human being and regard you as such - and there is nothing wrong with doing so after a couple of paragraphs.

There is a lot of thing you've said which are completely fair, especially at the end of your message about your values and advice. You've also given me a lot to think about with your workplace policies and procedures. But some of the things you've shared are completely baseless. There is no such thing as an emotional disorder. Meanwhile, bipolar disorder and bpd are relatable in both an academic and clinical sense. Clinicians can, and often will, diagnose someone suspected of bpd as bipolar type nos - maybe until further assessment or without further assessment at all. As while you're tooting your own horn, some of my arguments still continue to hold a little merit, especially the features I've described before.

There are also many ways to look at the same thing.

Speaking more tangibly? What you're describing involves blatant retaliation from a hypothetical boss. Of course retaliation isn't okay in the workplace. The only negative remarks I've seen mention of from the mother-in-law are about the computer use. There is no mention of when, where, or how this remark was issued. I reasonably assumed this occurred sometime during the duration these people lived together, and not a retaliation. Come on, now. Do you reasonably expect a seventy-year old woman to understand a younger person choosing to lurk on reddit all day while unemployed? Is that what an act of retaliation looks like to you?

Is there no room in this world for a person to simply be upset with somebody else and not want to speak with them? I ask because maybe, just maybe and if I'm not mistaken about your knowledge of 'emotional disorders', that you would better understand any reluctance involved if you had more worldly experience. I know your beliefs about psychiatry come from somewhere, and my suggestion that you maybe should familiarize yourself better with the topic is not an effort to invalidate those experiences.

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