There you go again with the "I'm the victim" routine. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. They're not virgin-shaming you. They're shaming your creepy, inconsiderate, and self-centered actions/attitude. Don't pretend you didn't go into this purely with selfish intentions; the fact that you didn't even take a second to consider how she'd feel supports the other commenter's assertion that she likely would have gotten nothing from this arrangement. All you cared about was your penis and your ego. It's also why you're acting like she owes you secrecy and her talking to others about it somehow makes you a victim. Grow tf up and learn to view women as people.