UPDATE: Me [30F] with my husband [32M]. Being a stay at home mom wasn't doing it for me, want to pursue a professional career. It means a significant amount of time apart and now we're looking at divorce? Help.

I went back and re-read my first post to her. I then read it again to make sure I wasn't missing something.

At no point in time did I ever say she was selfish. You not only sais I said it but you have gone on to say that I said it twice and inferred I said it a third time.

I stand by every single word I typed in that first post and even knowing what we know now I would type it again because nothing I said in that post was false, harmful or misleading.

I don't mind being told I'm wrong when I am, hell I'll be the first to admit I make a lot of mistakes and even sometimes offer less than helpful advice on here. But I damn well mind being told something when I never said it.

Here is my post word for word with no editing (if you don't believe me just click my name and read it under my history). Now you may have believed in your own mind I was calling her selfish, I was not. I was stating what I would tell anyone and that is that no matter the circumstance not many people would be okay with a spouse moving away with their small children for 4 years. I have no problem saying that again I you like.

Are you saying that you would be moving away from your husband for 4 years to go to Nursing school?

I get that you are unfulfilled and he should be more helpful in that regard as far as education and a job. But 4 years being apart?

I'm sorry it won't be popular but I see his point of view here.

There are tons of online nursing programs that you can get a BS in just under 2 years and all you have to do is go a few weekends for clinical's.

Also you may be getting the cart before the horse here, you are not guaranteed acceptance into advanced practice programs.

I'm sorry that I'm not more helpful in seeing your side of this but I hate to say it but in this case I don't see this as a marriage either. Even if you got the problems fixed, not a lot of people are going to be happy being in a marriage where you live apart for 4 years voluntarily.

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