OMG - wow I did NOT expect this. Thank you for linking back to see how things went!! Walking on clouds, right?!

I know it'll probably be a year before you read this bc your inbox exploded - I am crying for you! I am also scared to death. I don't want to cast a shadow over your bliss, I just want you to err on the side of caution with your actions bc your heart is so invested - not hold back your love and elation! I just have to say this:

Here she was, about to have a child **with someone else** --- Above ALL else, please have communication.

Her partner is going to be understandably blindsided. It was a very unhealthy decision bc your lover was betraying herself, putting aside her real emotions (even though she didn't know if there was a chance with you). S

he didn't choose to end her relationship before she abandoned it emotionally and even went so far as to plan a family, which is deceitful to herself as much as others, and could have cost a lot of pain to a child as well as the relationship, when it inevitably ended.

I don't know what caused that, but it's likely feelings about herself that have to be worked on, so she can value herself, you and for the health of you all and the longevity of your relationship There can be feels associated w her relationship that haven't been dealt with and it takes time, especially when someone goes so far as to plan a family with someone they aren't happy with. I hope you guys can get counseling and it's a priority so that she can deal with whatever caused that.

I know you want to bring your child into the strongest, healthiest environment you possibly can and to have that for her and yourself also.

Happy baby making!