Yep, make $200k as a software dev and will be retiring in a few years at 45 due to a combination of middle class privilege and luck (right place, right time to: learn to code, learn cloud, join a small SV company right before it blew up, bought an apartment in a tech city right before market explosion, etc.).

And I have lost a number of friends over it. Have been accused of being part of the elite (LOL), been told confidently there's no way I can be a leftist if I make that much, have had people get legitimately angry that I won't just give them money, blah blah blah.

Shit, when I sold my apartment and moved to a detached I bought a place that had a nice little in-law suite and thought I'd help out by offering it up for like 50% of the rental market rate to friends only (basically just enough to cover the wear & tear on a rental suite, not trying to make a profit). Had a few immediately turn their nose up at the fact that yes, you will be signing legal documents saying you are a tenant in my house and you have no legal right to it. The first one that rented from me lasted two months before starting to ask why they even need to pay rent if I can already pay the mortgage. It is now my space for weekend guests.

I am very comfortable, I make more than a lot of my peers even with the same field, but like... What am I supposed to do? Not accept the job offers I get because I've developed a very valuable skillset? Ask for a pay cut? Donate $150k every year and live in a rental with a beater car that breaks down all the time? Did that in my 20s, thanks.