3. Virgins of reddit, how old are you? Why are you still virgin? How do you feel ab...

Virgins of reddit, how old are you? Why are you still virgin? How do you feel about it? How do people around you think about you being virgin?

Hey! I actually recently turned 30 and I'm still a virgin - a kissless virgin at that. I am still sort of wondering how I made it 30 as a virgin. There is no particular reason for it. I suppose the women I was interested in did not really feel the same. The last woman I remember being attracted to who I knew was interested in me was when I was 21. There are a couple girls who have been interested in me since, but I wasn't interested - it's no fault of their own, It just wasn't there for me. I was not held back for any particular reason.

Other than that I think there's a few reasons. I'm quite a bit out of shape. I like to work out and I've gone running often. But I've got quite a bit of fat on me by allowing work to demand all of my time - and feeling guilty when there was still work to be done - and I'll admit I eat a lot when I'm feeling stressed. When I turned 30 I decided to shift this mindset a bit and always make time to work out. It's been going well so far, I've only missed a couple days out of a few weeks -but I've got a long road ahead of me.

I think I hold back my feelings a little bit. If there's a woman I'm interested in, I take some time to get to knew her a little before asking her out. I want to know a little bit of what she's all about. Sometimes I think that makes me a bit too reserved. I've heard too many horror stories of dating to just jump into something. So I feel like I want to be a bit sure of myself.

I don't feel bad about being a virgin. I'm not angry about it by any means. If anything I feel INSECURE at times. Most of the time, I'm a pretty happy guy. I have friends, we hang out, I have best friends who are men and women, people that I think of as my second family. But there's no doubt the inexperience gets to me. I do feel like something might be wrong with me. I definitely don't want to be a "kissless virgin" forever after all. But I also know that I have zero experience and that is a big, big problem for a lot of people. I didn't want it to turn out that way, I just made other things a priority and that's how it happened. So I'm really afraid that I'm being to be a big time let-down to the next girl that I connect with. That is the biggest worry for me. I don't want to be seen as bad at sex, because I know that can be a deal-breaker for a lot of people, but unfortunately I think I am just going to have to deal with it if she can't stand how inexperienced I might be.

As for what people think of me being a virgin - the opinions are all over the map. Friends have said "date a practice girl" - someone I'm not really that interested in but who might be into me - to get it out of the way. Hire an escort. Try picking up women at a bar - not something I'd probably ever do to be honest. Wait until it feels right. I have a couple of friends who are girls that I know of only by way of the internet - some have suggested I fly out to them and get it out of the way that way (if they were even interested). Lower your standards - I don't think they are all that high anyways... or a few other things.

Anyway, that's all about me and being a virgin. Sometimes I do feel insecure about it, and I look for others who are struggling with that same issue on here, which led me to your question. Sorry for the book.

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