I went to 4 bars last night

Isn't the point of this place to post about your experiences?

Absolutely, that is why I wouldn't ever report this post or even the worst posts. However, just because the post is allowed doesn't mean I (or anyone else) need to agree with it. I don't respond to hurt your feelings, belittle you, or anything like that. Often, the hardest things to hear in early sobriety are the best things for us to hear.

and I don't think the fact that I shared my personal story is danger to somebody.

With all due respect, this is where noobs' ignorance and lack of experience in this area is the most dangerous. Personally, I have been around recovery for a long time. My personal experiences tell me that if I took a room full of newly sober alcoholics and let them listen to 2 speakers: one extolling the benefits of dry people and dry places and the other extolling the exact opposite, the vast majority of those people struggling to stay sober will gravitate to the latter. Because they are bad people or destined to fail or weak??? Not at all. This is just how insidious and tricky the disease of alcoholism can be. It absolutely fucks up our thinking....especially in early sobriety.

I don't need to let you know how unique I am.

I didn't say you did but as long as you brought it up I will say it again....the vast majority of people I have personally seen over the years who, in early sobriety, want to tell me and others about how they successfully navigated a night out with drinking buddies think they are unique and the best, most accepted advice in recovery, does not apply to them. Sadly, those people tend not to stay around very long.

In your case, I sincerly hope you do stay around and a year from now you can repost this exchange and show me just how wrong I am.... :)

Good luck.

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