Either I worded that badly, or that's quite a selective reading. There is a lot going for him as a human being, he's remarkably gifted at what he does, for one thing, and I've never been as profoundly attracted to another person in my life (I mean emotionally, physically, everything). What I meant that there is little to recommend him as a "real" partner- cheating on his wife being his modus operandi, he's very comfortable with deceit, and uses "escapism" as a means to deal with uncomfortable feelings and situations (which is just a form of denial, I guess). On that level we are completely different. I have my shit together, I deal with life, prefer actual happiness to moments of escape from an unsatisfactory reality. So.... Yes... I do think I'm probably a way better partner than he is- I'm reliable, honest, trustworthy, the kind of person that will always try to understand and work with her partner so that everyone is happy, really happy, even if I find it initially hard to deal with or personally challenging... So my credentials, as it were, for a relationship in real terms far exceed his. Just meant it was silly to assume I was falling over myself to be with him properly- that's a massive consideration for me. Clearly he hasn't proved to me at all that he has the balls to do a proper, intimate, and real relationship. Doesn't mean I think I'm superior, or that I don't love him, just that it would be a huge risk on my part and he hasn't shown himself worthy of my heart and trust. Clearly his wife shouldn't trust him either! I would hate to be her... And he's shown no actual understanding that it could, even should, be different.