Here goes:

I(34F) dated someone (39M?) for 7+ years believing we were in a stand heterosexual relationship with far less sex than the average sex-less relationship.

I came home unexpectedly to learn he was sexually assaulting my daughter (10F) by masturbating in front of her several times over the course of a year.

While going through the court process (he’s facing two felonies not wanting to be held accountable for his actions), The information was provided to me that he has gender identity issues, feels more like a woman than a man, and frequently dressed in women’s underwear while enjoying gay porn.

As an aside, my daughter is currently in counseling, we left the home once I discovered what had been going on, and we’re in a much better (and happier) life position now.