I know this isn't exactly what you're after but when i first met my man he was so many things that i didnt want in a man. He liked SO much time to himself, to the point where I was contacted once every few hours maybe, and we only saw each other once or twice a week. I was not at all interested in someone that was close with their ex, it made me crazy to think about and I just love affection i love to be cuddled and kissed and just showered in love.

But this man. oh my god

Him and his ex were unbelievably close, to the point where he was asking her advice on me and it just made me feel awful. and it wasn't just the one, he was friends with three of his ex's. they would go out for lunch dates and spend time together, sometimes i had no idea it had even happened till hours after she had left his place and i ask him how his day was. and he was bad at affection and i mean awful. on a weekly basis the most i got was "you look nice tonight" we were from different worlds. but we made it work, my feelings for him were through the roof, he made me laugh, he made me so, so angry,there was passion in everything we had and the sex was just the icing on the cake.

we had really strong feelings for each other but it really felt like it wasnt going to work at the start so eventually, after i felt like i was going to go mental trying to keep up with this new lifestyle that just wasnt for me, we sat down and talked it out now i get as many cuddles as i want, he gets his own time on the weekends so him and his boys can go play games and drink and now over a year later we're just both really happy. unfortunatly the ex problem wasnt easily solved. One of them decided to try make him break up with me because she wanted him to be her 'plan B' encase her engagement didn't work out and the others he slowly just stopped talking too for me, i think they still talk sometimes, but they arent as close and thats just fine by me. It all came down to a lot of communication and trust.

anyway! sorry for the ramble, where i was going with that is that sometimes it is completely worth it to try push yourself through these weird traits and to be totally honest with the person you're seeing. Talk it through, you never know give it a month and you could find out something new about yourself (who knew i had a thing for hairy men? I sure as shit didnt!) or a lovely compromise to help you grow as a person.