Yes. As you can imagine, staying in the closet about being poly is just pretty lame in a place where it's not even an issue. It's like, "Oh come on, nobody cares, and you still want to sneak around!"

I know it's VERY different in other places though.

I think you're right -- only dating out people (that doesn't mean screaming it from the rooftops, but it means not lying about it) makes sense where I am. Since it's just stupid to hide things nobody minds. But where you are, being open about polyamory is another matter entirely -- an active thing, a thing somebody does when they know there might be serious consequences but they're willing to accept that sad fact.

I'm the kind of asshole who doesn't mind being like, "lol then just don't hire me you fuckers," but that's... not for everyone. And I would absolutely be willing to have a partner who needed to stay in the closet if I knew that being open would harm them in such serious ways. It's just, that doesn't happen around here.