Ok I had exactly the opposite experience as her after going through puberty.

Crazy how she describes her "after-stacy" experience as feeling "invisible".

I was the disablingly shy girl that wore practically the same thing everyday, probably smelled slightly or had stains on my clothes, was slightly chubby, unkempt hair, had a few twitches, and was just in general quite odd and aloof.

Then at a doctors visit my pediatrician warned me of being at risk for diabetes. It was like a light switched on, like I was waiting for an excuse to put an effort into myself, and when finally given one; i took it. I decided to go for a bike-ride around the neighborhood once a day (1.5 miles lol) and to become a vegetarian. It was small, but over a year I went from a BMI that was overweight to one that was just slightly underweight.

I also started putting effort into my style and wearing make up and right off the bat I started getting some male attention. Of course it wasn't much as I was still prepubescent (maybe 12 at the time) and had to get braces, but by the time high school came around I was completely shocked to discover that I had been invisible for the vast majority of my life. It seemed like everyone wanted to date me, the pretty girls wanted to be my friends, and others would tell me how their guy friends thought I was the prettiest girl in school. (For the record I was never "ugly", but because of how I presented myself + being slightly chubby it completely concealed my attractiveness)

Then my braces came off and my boobs came in, and everything was put into high gear. Of course, I still lacked all of the pro-social behaviors necessary to maintain and optimize all this opportunity, so the attention really just made me anxious. Guys I hardly knew would ask me for hugs and bury their face into my chest or try to press hard against me. Guys that used to make fun of me and call me "man" in elementary school would have the galls to ask me on dates. The guy I actually really did like and was never mean to me finally "liked" me back, but deep down I knew that it was impossible — it takes me so long to open up, that it was literally impossible for him to know me well enough to "like" anything other than how I looked.

I ended up never dating anyone in high school and depending heavily on alcohol to try and cope with the attention, because the idea of being invisible again was fucking terrifying, and flask in my bra was the only way I could manage being social.

I figured my shit out after high school, but I have never been with anyone and don't know if I ever will. I just want to focus on school and being the best person I can be.