I’m 39 and have never orgasmed from penetration. I honestly never orgasmed until I had a toy that focused on clitoral stimulation and I figured it out. It took me a very long time to come to terms with the fact that while I enjoy penetration, it’ll never get me where I want it to. Sex in stories and movies seems so clear cut, like it’s obvious and everyone should have and enjoy sex the same way. But it’s not. It’s soooo not. Everyone is different. People enjoy different things, and people react differently to the same stimuli. And that’s ok. It doesn’t mean that I’m defective or wrong. It just mean that I’m different. And the best lovers that I’ve had haven’t had any issues with that. We’ve both been taken care of during the act. Good sex and intimacy is about give and take on both parts.