I [21M] don't know what went wrong on my first tinder date with her [22F]. She says she doesn't see it happening between us. I feel like I can't connect with anyone if I couldn't connect with her.

Well, the thing is this was my interpretation after the fact. I wasn't explicitly thinking that during the date or immediately after. This was after she said she didn't see it happening between us.

When the date was over, I thought it went well, the text conversation also hints to a second meet up when she texted: "We should definitely do it again soon!" And "I had fun talking to you :)". Like, after the date everything seemed fine, I thought maybe the fuckup was my texting or whatever.

I don't know, if she wasn't looking for a relationship with anyone, but something more than just a hook up, you'd think that she would at least like to get to know someone before they casually have fun. It seems like something repulsed her like me talking too much or not finishing my stories and trailing off. I was thinking that was it considering it made me look nervous and out of touch. Not sure though, she also said the date was fun and that I was super nice (a week later when she finally said that she didn't want I hang again).

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