I [21M] told my girlfriend [22F] of 3ish months that I thought she was "a little overweight" today.

This comment is ignorant and rude.

I know I will get downvoted but I really don't care. At all. I just want to point out how this comment comes across.

The comments on this post where people share that they are also short but that they weigh under 130 (or whatever) are completely irrelevant to the posters question and it comes off as snotty and condescending. Congratulations on being thin? Is that what everyone wants to hear? I don't get it.

The OP knows his girlfriend is slightly overweight. Everyone sharing their perfect weights doesn't change that. OPs girlfriend knows this about herself. If she didn't, she wouldn't have gotten upset. Is she medically overweight? Yes. Does she look bad? Probably not. Does she even look fat? It's possible depending on how she carries her weight, but I'd still guess probably not.

I'm only 5 ft. I will leave out what I weigh so some asshole doesn't comment how they weighed less than that pregnant, but I don't look huge. At all. Do I have body issues? Sure. do I look overweight? Yup, I look slightly overweight. But I don't look fat. I shop in normal stores, got hit on (and still do) by all kinds of guys, dated and got called beautiful, and now I'm married. I'm incredibly curvy. My boobs are huge. I started developing in 5th grade and they just kept going. I have hips and a butt. It's just how I'm built. Could I do to lose some in my stomach? Yup. But I'm still not fat. I've worn bikinis and with my giant boobs and smaller waist,I usually look pretty damn good (particularly if I've been dieting to keep my stomach somewhat flatter).

It's just rude to turn this into a fat hating group. Particularly one based on weight. I know that medically I could do to lose a few. Before I have children I plan on losing at least 20 so I don't gain an insane amount. I get that. But I carry my weight well and I don't look fat and don't appreciate being talked down to by someone who is lucky enough to be smaller and weigh 148 while pregnant. Again, congratulations on that.

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