There is a lot of information I didn’t add. We are both married and both separated and seeking divorces. She does not live in the state. This is very hard because we are also both active military, when they divorce, he will lose bah, If she finds out about us, she can get us both in trouble since we are military. He told me there is nothing between them and he does not love her. I told him if he doesn’t file soon then it is over. I acknowledge that this is a ridiculous story, and we both sound like bad people. When we first got together I was under the impression that they were done and getting divorced but work life has been so crazy ever since we got together (long days, and training rotations) that me and him have both been procrastinating starting the paperwork.