Hi, I see you’re still in a lot of agony. I’m so sorry for that. I forgot to mention to you, you MUST tell her husband. Do you know why she reached out to your husband about Mountain Dew? Because she’s experienced no consequences. Why shouldn’t she? She has nothing to lose. She knows you haven’t told her husband so who’s gonna stop her? Who’s keeping an eye on her? Certainly not her husband b/c he doesn’t even know. So while he’s in the dark, she’s still reaching out to your husband to restart the affair. Affairs thrive in secrecy. What happened when you found out? It stopped. At least on your husband’s end, for now. She wants to keep it going since her husband doesn’t know. Nothing’s stopping the other women from trying to rekindle it. What happens in a dark room full of roaches? When you turn on the light they all scatter. Affairs die by exposure. That’s why people encourage you to tell ppl like both your parents, shame is a very powerful emotion. By not telling the other betrayed spouse you are making it painless to try and start the affair again. If you don’t tell him, it’ll be your fatal mistake and you’ll always regret not doing it. You two could be working in tandem and sharing notes, but instead you’re fighting this battle alone hoping your husband has the self control, that he didn’t have before, to not to restart the affair, while the OW clearly wants it to continue b/c altho they were busted, there were only repercussions for your husband, not her, because you’re all keeping her husband in the dark. Really hope you think on that.