See this is why most relationships don’t survive infidelity. I’m sure you’re not a natural control freak (now that you explained anyway) but because you don’t trust her, you are controlling her. I get it, it’s almost a natural human reaction. You love her, it would hurt your heart to leave, but you can’t trust her. So you come up with ways to try to stay with someone you can’t trust. Checking up on. Negotiations. But love can’t exist without trust. I’m also not saying you should trust her, sounds like you doesn’t deserve it and wouldn’t treat your trust with the respect it deserves.

I’m sorry I was harsh. You gotta admit that first post looked a little bad. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I think it’s the right decision to not be together. You can’t trust her. I’m not sure much else matters at the end of the day.