I [25F] am considering a relationship with a man [40M]. We're unequal in every way. Is this a terrible idea?

I feel like there are several catches.

  • He outearns and outranks me by several orders of magnitude. I don't want to be looked down upon by him, or for him to use his status as leverage over me, and I don't want his social circle to look down upon me either, if I were to enter it.
  • He's an expat and a bit of a nomad, will probably fuck off to somewhere eventually.
  • He's a recent divorcee which makes me wonder about his capacity for commitment at the moment (not because divorced people can't commit in principle, but because they're probably temporarily sick of it). I don't want to be played with.
  • I felt absolutely nothing for him, physically or personality-wise, until the date, and the date only lasted about 2 hours, so this sudden 180 change in my feelings is making me suspicious.
  • I've had a crush on someone else for the past few months.
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