Because it's smoke and mirrors and the issue is his jealousy. How are you going to deny that across cultures, promiscuity in women is taken as a negative when the same is not true of men.

I'm not dense, and I understand what you're saying, and this issue of him being a virgin does bring an interesting twist. Call me paranoid, but it's my nature to look at the motivation behind a thing.

But...look at the premium different cultures put on female virginity. It's a life or death matter in some cultures, as in a woman can be honor killed for losing their virginity, even through rape.

I'm saying it all stems from the same place, what this guy is doing, and that (much more extreme, obviously) issue of honor killing, and taking child brides in religious communes, and on and on and on.

So what I'm saying is that while I admit the possibility this man is so adamant in his convictions that strict virginity before marriage is truly sacred to him (which I still find creepy, but whatever), I don't see how we can ignore the massive cultural backdrop, here. The idea of a female virgin holds value across cultures and for reasons that are imposed on women, that long pre-date a world where women had any say in this sort of thing. The idea is promulgated through religion, disseminated by entirely male clergies, stemming from tribal societies where tribal elders composed these supposedly divine texts in order to set down societal rules (all of the bizarre rules in Leviticus, for example, make sense if you're in a role of total authority over a tribe).

It's a complicated issue. I just wish people would take this complexity on instead of running scared, downvoting, jamming fingers in ears, etc.