Even if your family were all wonderful people who loved you and treated you like some family out of a happy TV sitcom you would not owe them space in your house. You are not responsible for providing for your nieces and nephews. You got a scholarship, they can get scholarships. They can and should figure it out themselves with your kind offer of advice. As far as hosting holidays, again this is not something you owe them. This whole guilt trip you owe us thing is abusive. You could make a case that you owe your parents some help when they are so aged as to be unable to care for themselves--the return for the time they spent caring for you as a baby and small child--but they aren't asking for NEEDED help. Here we are talking about WANTS not NEEDS. You don't owe ANYONE to fulfill their wants. My daughter wants a pink Volkswagen bug. She currently drives a beatup minivan. I could buy her the car she wants, I really could, but it's better for her to be motivated to bust her tail to buy her own pink Volkswagen bug. She needs to struggle and work just like I did. Plus, she might need that money later for something important and I suspect that when she graduates college she may prefer a more adult car--it's a lot of money for something she'll grow to hate and find hard to sell. I love my daughter and have a good relationship with her, and I fairly regularly choose to not give her what she wants. My daughter is never a jerk about it, she's not entitled or selfish. I always do my best to give her what she needs. Your family is not giving you what YOU need--space to be your own person. Even if they were super loving mega awesome people, which they are NOT, you still don't owe them giving up your personal space. You earned that space and really seem to need it. They don't need it and haven't done anything to deserve it. It isn't ungrateful to set limits with other people--it's healthy.