First off, I am thankful for starting this discussion. I understand your struggle with the oversexualization in media and how gender identity/fluidity is becoming mainstream. As a new parent, I am becoming more uncomfortable with how young children are being exposed to these topics and how innocence is becoming lost. Its unfortunate that people have to preface the fact that we are not homophobic but that's probably the result of cancel culture. I hear you and your struggle, as I struggle with this new dynamic too. I don't have a perfect answer but what Im doing is just having my inner circle be with like minded people who want to homeschool, have more traditional values, and living in a more conservative city. It's starting from the environment he's going to be brought up in. Mind you, my child is only 9mo old so he doesn't have friends he's made in school yet and other complexities you probably have going on, but these are the things I'm doing so my child and raise my child instilled with our family values.