Ok, so it sounds like for all of the reason you have given me you need counseling. Tell him all of these reasons running around in your head omitting the doubts about him when you tell him you want to talk to someone.

My husband and I are 13 years apart. We have been married for over 20 years. Right now he is in his early 60s and I am in my late 40s. He is absolutely the best part of me and I think I am the the best part of him. We fit together like long lost puzzle pieces. That being said, age gaps do come with problems sometimes. But every single relationship has problems!! I truly do not mind that my husband has more gray hair then me! It is a complete non issue.

Also my parents have an 11 year age gap. My aunt and uncle a 15 year age gap. As long as both parties are mentally compatible it can work!

I would choose my older husband over anyone else in the world every time!

I have to much personal info in this post so I am going to delete it after you have read it so let me know when you have please :)