I see your point, and I absolutely agree that she is a bad influence on our son and that we'd have to protect him from it and a lot of explaining would be involved when he grows older. I would completely agree with your statement if my husband had made the decision that he wants to distance himself from her. But he says he does NOT want to distance himself from her, he says he wants the opposite. But what he factually does is distancing himself. I think it's sort of the strategy of "if I don't say anything to her, I can't say anything wrong/hurtful". Of course that's not a very wise strategy, he also admitted he knows that, but he's not quite overcome it.